Accidents

Was onto mr Wang's series of posts on articles/letters about marriage. I'll quote some of the comments.

Excerpt :
Gabrielle : "Being married means having to be ready for kids, even if u say u don't want kids, there are ACCIDENTS."
Mr Wang : "Heheh. If you're single, you also have to be ready for kids. Even if you say you don't want kids, there are ACCIDENTS. Of course, if you permanently abstain from sex, then there will be no ACCIDENTS, but then, boy, if you permanently abstain, then you really suffer from a lack of QOL. Kekeke."

QOL is acronym for Quality Of Life.

Don't worry, the Bandit is not going to start espousing the importance of breaking chastity vows even if you intend to keep a celibacy vow (Though there are definitions of celibacy by some dictionaries which includes non-nookie). Nor am i going to start discussing whether marriage is expensive or not. Burden or not. Financial planning or not. Though it is certainly mind boggling to think that marriage is nothing more than a certificate to buy houses below the age of 35 (or was it 30?) and license for moral nookie.

I'm sure every now and then we hear from married friends that they didn't want to have kids or didn't want them yet, but had an accident and thus a new begining was um.. begun. And such accidents are surprisingly common enough. But it makes me wonder however, whether these accidents that occured was due to failure of contraceptive or failure to use contraceptive (properly).

A quick survey from a rather fond friend was that of the many accidents that my friend has heard of, it seemed, is always due to a failure to use contraceptive. That instead of protection (causes lost of feeling or loses the moment during its application, or so i was told) the couples try to time their nookie during the non-ovulation period of the menstrual cycle. But since human bodies are not precise clocks..

As such, i find that to avoid marriage or nookie because of a fear of accidents as not a very good reason. With failure rate of only 3% with proper protection, unwanted pregnancy should be the least of worries (if children is not desired that is). Now.. what does 3% mean? It doesn't mean 3 times out of 100 nookie, a girl would get pregnant. The study was done in the context of, 3 girls out of a 100 girls, who use proper protection over a period of 1 year, would get pregnant.

But if you get statistics from religious pro-life sites, you'll find that they claim condoms as useless, or something to that effect. They often use out of context statistics for their claims. The reason being that they are trying to advocate abstinence, not safe nookie. The detrimental side effect is that people might think that since contraception is useless, they go without it instead.

But i digressed.

Help fight HIV/AIDS, teach safe sex, not abstinence.